Comments on: A Mother’s Guilt

By: Dave Fowler

Dave Fowler — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 10:06:05 +0000

Tim
Ah, yes the teachers. I love the teachers. Dedicated professionals hamstrung by targets. I looooooove the teachers.

Kirst
I don’t read those blogs – they make me feel inadequate. Besides, I think half of them are probably works of fiction. Noddy gets n my nerves. I keep waiting for big ears to slap him upside the head.

Thanks for the link. I’ll check it out a little later after I’ve caught up on all the responses I ignored yesterday. I’m a bad man.

Vered
I think I’ve felt it before, but only now is it starting to seep into my consciousness. I’ve lost my immunity. I wonder how many men feel this kind of guilt but won’t admit it?

Barbara
These things tend to be short lived for me. I get cross and then get over it. It’s nice to vent though. Saves me bottling it all up.

Turf Dad
Too right. It sent me straight to the kitchen. And then I had something else to feel guilty about.

Tara
He’s a wise man, isn’t he?

By: Tara@Sticky Fingers

Tara@Sticky Fingers — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 12:21:29 +0000

@Turf Dad. Is that what it is? Guilt? Right, that's it, I'm never feeling guilty again. Sod the lot of them. Tara@Sticky Fingers´s last blog post..How to torture mummy

By: Turf Dad

Turf Dad — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 04:57:23 +0000

Guilt makes you gain weight. Stop it!

Turf Dad´s last blog post..Wednesday Weigh In Week 6

By: Barbara Swafford

Barbara Swafford — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 04:46:30 +0000

Hi Dave - It's never fun when our plans don't go on schedule, but at least you realize what's causing your "grief". Hopefully tomorrow goes better and you can concentrate on that which you hoped to accomplish today. Barbara Swafford´s last blog post..Attract Readers - Make Your Blog A Safe Haven

By: Vered - MomGrind

Vered - MomGrind — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 00:15:09 +0000

Oh yes it is.

I think it’s the first time I’ve ever heard a man talk about feeling this type of guilt.

By: Kirst

Kirst — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 22:33:15 +0000

PS you should link this to Sprite's Keeper's Spin Cycle it's all about guilt (she's on my blogroll). Kirst´s last blog post..Wordless Wednesday: Meggers gets a manicure!

By: Kirst

Kirst — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 22:30:21 +0000

Ah yes Guilt! I know her/him well! I get that feeling when I read perky blogs where mums are doing loads with their children and Meggers is watching Noddy for the um teenth time so I can get my blog on and take care of household chores (the mere order of those items should tell you my priorities are a little skewed). I imagine the pangs of guilt I feel now are gearing me up for when she's 30, in therapy and blaming it all on me. Ach well we do the best we can right?! Kirst´s last blog post..Wordless Wednesday: Meggers gets a manicure!

By: Tim

Tim — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 19:08:46 +0000

Oh, but think of the teachers Dave, think of the teachers! At home, with daytime telly, catching up with all their marking! Unexpected days off are wonderful for them. Every cloud, and all that... Tim´s last blog post..Cheat!

By: Dave Fowler

Dave Fowler — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 16:16:30 +0000

Tara
It got worse before it got better, but all is well now. Sanity intact.

Avlor
The guilt probably helps to identify where my attention should really be directed. I can do most things with the children except work with numbers.
“All you can do, is all you can do” True!

Mike
You got me there. I am venting here because I know the way I feel is unreasonable. But it is the way I feel – or at least the way I felt. It passed after a while.

CK
Much of what I feel probably comes from trying to cram too much in to my life and having unrealistic expectations of what I can achieve. Your day and my day has probably been much the same as millions of other parents across the globe. I’m smiling now though.

Writer Dad
I took my frustrations out here on the screen. It’s like free therapy. Thanks for listening.

By: Writer Dad

Writer Dad — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 15:24:17 +0000

It's exactly what you're feeling. It's like what Mike said though. At least your venting your frustration here instead of at home. Writer Dad´s last blog post..New Year’s Re-Solutions

By: CK Lunchbox

CK Lunchbox — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 13:53:17 +0000

ya, that would be Mother's Guilt, but the kids won't be scared for life. This must be an international phenomenon today... I have one kid sick (could be faking. She'll be doing allot of math homework today to find out), and them my boys had school canceled due to an ice storm (I was supposed to have a phone conf with one of their teachers today too). Had much writing to do - like your day, that is all shot. CK Lunchbox´s last blog post..Vacation Slides & Prozac

By: Mike Goad

Mike Goad — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 13:29:19 +0000

What is it they say? The best laid plans…

Sounds like you might have been venting your frustration here rather than venting on the kids. I hope that’s the case, any way.

Mike Goad´s last blog post..Eyes of the Great Depression 010

By: Avlor

Avlor — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 12:01:04 +0000

I've been in similar situations. Yeah that's probably some guilt. Tomorrow will be better and your children will not be permanently warped because of one day. That's the Mother's Hope. On days my children are home and I have to do finances, sometimes I have to let them watch TV and sometimes I have to wait till hubby gets home and ask him to take them out of the house and give them more attention than I can. All you can do, is all you can do. Avlor´s last blog post..“New Look” and Tagged

By: Tara@Sticky Fingers

Tara@Sticky Fingers — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 10:37:57 +0000

Ah yes, my friend, Mother's Guilt. A real shitter that one. You just have to rise above it. Enjoy your day with them, silently curse the school caretaker, and pick up tomorrow. It's difficult enough with 2 children 'what can we do now'ing, but 4? All credit to you, Dave. If you come out the other end sane, it will have all been worth it! Tara@Sticky Fingers´s last blog post..How to torture mummy